top of page

Supporting New Moms: Key Strategies for Building Your Village

Picture this...

baby mobile above a crib at nighttime.

It's the wee hours of the morning, and the soft glow of the moonlight seeps through the curtains, casting a gentle light on the room. In the rocking chair, a tired but vigilant new mom cradles her newborn close to her chest, their rhythmic breathing the only sound in the room. Despite the tranquility of the moment, her mind buzzes with a whirlwind of emotions—loneliness, confusion, overwhelm. She's plunged headfirst into the depths of motherhood, a journey she had anticipated with both excitement and trepidation, yet nothing could have prepared her for the intensity of these early days.

As she navigates the uncharted waters of caring for her precious newborn, she finds herself grappling with a profound sense of isolation. Despite being surrounded by loved ones, she feels adrift in a sea of uncertainty, unsure of how to articulate her needs or how to reach out for support. The weight of responsibility bears down on her shoulders, and she wonders how she'll muster the strength to carry on.

In moments of exhaustion, she longs for a helping hand, a sympathetic ear, a shoulder to lean on. But the words stick in her throat, and she resigns herself to soldiering on alone, convinced that asking for help would be a burden on others. Little does she know that across town, other mothers are experiencing similar struggles, grappling with the same fears and doubts. If only they could come together, share their burdens, and lift each other up.

"It takes a village to raise a child."

great-grandmother holding grand-baby's hand

The words echo in her mind, stirring something deep within her—for in that simple phrase lies a profound truth: motherhood was never meant to be a solitary journey.

Motherhood is a communal endeavor, a shared experience that transcends boundaries and unites women from all walks of life.

In the olden days, villages served as the heartbeat of community life, bustling hubs where neighbors came together to celebrate, mourn, and support one another through life's trials and tribulations. It was a place where no one was left behind, where everyone had a role to play and a part to contribute.

But in today's fast-paced, modern world, the concept of the village has all but faded into obscurity. We've become disconnected from one another, isolated in our own little concrete bubbles, grappling with the challenges of motherhood in solitude. Trying to convince ourselves that our independence equates to "making it" while our souls yearn for the complete opposite. Our longing for community lingers, like a silent cry for connection in a world that often feels lonely.

Image reading" I keep hearing it takes a village to raise a child. Do they just show up? Or is there like a number to call? -Author Unknown

New moms, let's build your village!

You may be wondering...

How do we reclaim the spirit of the village in our modern-day lives?

How do we build a support network that nourishes and sustains us through the trials and triumphs of motherhood?

  • By shifting our mindset from that of independence to one of receiving...

    • Acknowledge that the entrance into motherhood, the postpartum period, is a time for receiving support from our community. It can be challenging to accept help, but allowing others to support us during this transformative time is essential for our well-being and adjustment to motherhood. It's okay to lean on others and embrace the support they offer.

  • By preparing your expectations...

    • Understand that the postpartum period is a time of transition and adjustment, and it's normal to experience a range of emotions during this time. Setting realistic expectations for ourselves and our journey can help us navigate the challenges of motherhood with greater ease.

  • By believing that you are not alone...

    • Remember that the challenges you face as a new mother are common and part of the journey. Many others have experienced similar feelings and obstacles, and you are not alone in your experiences. Strengthen your community by seeking out support from other mothers, whether it's through mother's groups, online forums, or local gatherings.

  • By trusting your intuition...

    • Recognize the importance of listening to your instincts as a new mother. Your intuition often guides you in caring for both yourself and your baby, providing valuable insights and guidance.

  • By conceptualizing what support means for you...

    • Take the time to consider what kind of support you'll need in the first few months postpartum. This may include help with household chores, emotional support, or childcare. Understanding your needs early on can help you build a strong support system.

  • By identify who to ask for help...

    • Look to your community for support, whether it's family members, friends, or professionals like doulas or lactation consultants. Identifying individuals you can rely on for support can make asking for help feel less daunting.

  • By learning how to ask for help...

    • Practice asking for help when you need it. Whether it's communicating your needs directly or accepting offers of assistance from others, learning to ask for help is an important skill for new mothers.

Are you curious about how to apply these action steps in real life? Dive into a powerful podcast discussion on the Empower 2 Heal Podcast, where three mothers share their journeys of building their own villages while supporting others in doing the same. Join the conversation and gain valuable insights on navigating the joys and challenges of motherhood with a strong support network by your side.

Join Our Support Group: To further support our community of mothers, we're excited to offer a free support group for a limited time. This group will provide a safe and nurturing space for mothers to come together, share their experiences, and support one another on their motherhood journey. If you're interested in joining us, click here to sign up today!

Motherhood is a journey best traveled together, and building a strong support system is key to navigating the ups and downs along the way.

By surrounding ourselves with a supportive community of like-minded individuals, we can find strength, encouragement, and reassurance in knowing that we're not alone.

Together, we can create a village that lifts each other up and supports one another through every step of the journey.

<3 Dena


bottom of page